Ep 98: Running to intention

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It’s easy to make plans and draw lines in the sand with our intentions. But our world doesn’t change until we start running. To move forward, we have to take action.

I was confronted with that reality last week while waiting for a storm that, thankfully, never came to South Florida. But it gave me the time and space to reconsider my intentions – and resolve to run with intention.

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Ep 98: Running to intention

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

I ran across this quote from John Maxwell just this morning;

“The world is not made better by our intentions; it is made better by our intentional actions.”

Much of what we aspire to do and what we want our life to be revolves around our actions. We can read awesome, inspirational books and come up with really tight plans.

But until we start running, we won’t actually get anywhere.

When I struggle with inaction, I sometimes think of that scene in the movie Forrest Gump when Forrest decides to start running. After the devastating departure of his precious Jenny in the middle of the night, Forrest decides to fall back on the one thing he had been known for most of his life: running.

He didn’t give it much thought, he just started running, and kept going. Across the country, for several years.

On his journey, when someone asked him how he kept going, he simply said,”When I got tired, I slept. When I got hungry, I ate. When I had to go, you know, I went.”

Just go. It’s really just that easy, but also that hard.

We live in a world of constant distraction that seeks to get us to stop running for a minute, or wants to take us down a different road. If we’re going to be able to handle our stress more effectively, we have to get a grip on our ability to focus.

We’ve allowed the power of technological advancement to steal that from us.

We have to take the time to perform intentional actions.

There’s just no getting around it.

Over the past week I’ve been challenged in a few areas while waiting for the possibility of a powerful hurricane at my doorstep. It kind of stopped my wheel from spinning for a few days and totally upended my schedule. I had the mental space to ask myself a few questions:

  • What am I really trying to accomplish?
  • What specific actions am I willing to take move forward?
  • What will I commit to regardless of how I feel?

There’s so much that buzzes around our heads today. Some of it is good. Much of it is pointless.

Most of our stress comes from our unwillingness to shift our attention to what’s important.

To focus on what will truly make change in our lives. Many of us are simply unwilling to make that tradeoff, to ensure that we use our precious attention to accomplish what we value most.

This past week I leaned into my own struggles with busyness and focus, and made a few decisions. So that quote from John Maxwell this morning was like a little spark to challenge me.

Decisions are great, but now what are you going to do?

I’m going to start running toward intentional actions. I’m excited and terrified all at the same time.

It will mean a few changes for sure. But isn’t that the point? To create the value you want to see in your life, you have to do something different than what you’ve done before.

How will you run toward your intentional actions this week?

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Ep 96: Silent anger at work

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Most of us don’t want to show our anger at work too much. You can get a reputation for being difficult. But you can show anger in less visible ways and still put yourself under a lot of stress.

Here are a few things to know about anger and how to handle it at work.

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Ep 96: Silent anger at work

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

Have you ever gotten really angry at work?

Maybe you got upset when a coworker said something to you that rubbed you the wrong way. Or maybe your boss sent you an email you didn’t like.

How did you handle it? Did you sit at your desk and fume out loud about it? Did you hide your anger with a forced smile so no one would know?

Silent anger is a pretty common response. We don’t want to lose it at work but sometimes that anger can really build up inside us.

Suddenly you’re saying and doing things that are out of character for you.

Anger usually presents itself when something or someone is standing in your way and keeping you from something you want.

  • You might be angry because you didn’t get the promotion you thought you deserved.
  • You may be angry because a coworker didn’t finish their part of the project and now the whole thing is in jeopardy.
  • You may be angry because you feel disrespected in spite of the value you bring to your team.
  • You may feel angry because you don’t have the resources to be successful.

No one may even have a clue you’re angry about these things. You’re good at hiding it because you don’t want to be the one making a lot of noise.

Instead you may resort to passive aggressive behaviors. Meaning, you’re angry, but you act like you aren’t and use unrelated actions to communicate that.

Like when your spouse slams the dishes around while cleaning the kitchen YOU were supposed to clean. There’s a message there, but she’s not being terribly clear about it. But she is being loud. 😂

Staying angry about what you’re not getting isn’t going to get you anywhere.

At some point, you have to take action or nothing will change. In fact, your anger could give way to things like anxiety and depression.

So what can you do?

First determine to stop letting anger block you.

Anger is an excellent indicator that something is wrong. It lays over the top of softer emotions like fear, vulnerability and hurt.

So if you’re willing to listen, anger can give you useful data to find out what you really need to work on.

Take an honest assessment about what’s making you angry. Write down each thing that you get upset about.

Look for patterns. What common elements do they share?

What is it you’re wanting and not getting?

Now that you have some idea of what’s making you angry, be brave and communicate it to others in an honest and direct way.

In a work environment, this can be tricky. Most organizations have ways to deal with visibly angry people who take unhealthy actions.

But many companies aren’t that skilled with the finer emotional experiences that can make work so challenging.

You will have to be the one to take the initiative. This will be good for you because initiative is the anti-passive-aggressive.

One way to do this is to communicate your concerns using “I” statements.

“I” statements allow you to speak from your own experience. You describe the specific emotions you feel and how they’re affecting you.

And you do this without casting blame or trying to assess the other person’s motives.

So for example, NOT this:

“I noticed my accomplishments weren’t mentioned in last month’s report. How could you disrespect me like that? I sacrificed a lot of personal time to get it done. I can’t believe how little you care about me and my work.”

Try this instead:

“I noticed my accomplishments weren’t mentioned in last month’s report. That made me feel angry because I worked extra time to make sure we met our goals. Our team’s goals are really important to me. Can you help me understand better what I might be missing?”

In the last scenario, you speak to your anger, but not in a way that puts the other person on the defensive. Instead, it’s a call for more information to improve the process, and ultimately, it’s more collaborative.

Lastly, you may have to let it go.

It’s easy to look for others to be the cause of why we’re struggling at work, but we forget that we hold so much power over our emotions.

Even if you communicate your feelings in a healthy way, you still may not get your justice. You may just have to be okay with that.

Letting go of anger is a decision and a commitment. It’s an act of humility that says the greater good is bigger than my feelings in this moment.

Letting it go serves to start with a clean slate, for everyone.

Anger is tricky because it seems like it’s mostly caused by something or someone else.

But the decision on how to deal with anger is largely left up to us.

We may not be able to choose what happens to us and makes us angry.

But we can decide what role we might play in a solution

Who knows how that might change your stress today?

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Ep 95: Find your own little breeze

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So yesterday I was talking about how it’s okay to quit sometimes. Now today, I want you to find ways to give yourself a break and keep going. Life sure is confusing sometimes! 😂

I find inspiration everywhere, and a few years ago I found it in a simple song that helped me refocus on a bad day. Here are a few things to remember when “one of them days” blows in.

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Ep 95: Find your own little breeze

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

A few years ago I remember having a really tough morning getting ready for work.

It was one of those days when you wake up with kind of a cloud over your head.

Have you ever felt like that?

I tried all my usual stuff to get past it but I still felt like my brain was moving through peanut butter.

I had about an hour commute in those days so while I was driving I decided to try a couple of podcasts I liked.

But it just wasn’t taking, you know? It felt forced and my cynicism had me shooting down all the positive stuff I was hearing.

That peanut butter cloud and I flew right down I-95 together that morning. I couldn’t shake it.

There was a lot going on at my job that was pretty tough, and I knew it was going to be hard to be the positive one today if I didn’t figure this out.

I finally gave up and just turned on my 80s station, which is my go-to place because I like to think I was cool in the 80s. I wasn’t, but if I think I was, then I was, right?

That moment allowed the work of a great American philosopher to change my perspective.

Billy Joel’s hit from 1985 called “You’re Only Human” began to play.

Now I had heard that song a million times before, but I guess I’d never really stopped to hear the lyrics.

Parts of the song spoke to where I was sitting in that moment.

I won’t be singing the lyrics to you here. In fact, my solemn vow to you in Mental Health Moment is that you’ll never have to hear me sing. But I can recite with some skill so here’s what I first heard:

It’s not always easy to be living in this world of pain
You’re gonna be crashing into stone walls again and again
It’s alright
It’s alright
Though you feel your heart break
You’re only human
You’re gonna have to deal with heartache

I felt like he was singing directly to me right from 1985. It was a legitimate “Back to the Future moment,” only I was in a Mustang not a Delorean. 😂

I remember thinking as I pulled off the highway exit, you know what, he’s right. Billy Joel’s right!

I AM only human! These feelings are part of the experience even though it’s not fun.

In fact, these feelings are the things that make me human.

Philosopher Joel continued on:

But I survived all those long lonely days
When it seemed I did not have a friend
‘Cause all I needed was a little faith
So I could catch my breath and face the world again
Don’t forget your second wind
Sooner or later you’ll feel that momentum kick in.

You’re totally singing this song in your head now aren’t you?

As I pulled in the parking lot I was reminded that I had been here before and I had been able to deal with these feelings.

I would catch my breath again, maybe even in the next few minutes if I chose it. I had faith in my ability to to wrestle with these feelings and win.

I sat in the car for a couple of minutes after the song was over and reflected for a second (I call this taking a mental health moment, by the way).

Here’s what I told myself.

You don’t always get to know why.

We want answers for everything these days, don’t we? We’re just not satisfied with some things remaining a mystery in our Google-centric world. I don’t typically wake up feeling like this, and it was frustrating to not understand this state of mind I found myself in.

But you can’t always draw a direct line back to the source of difficult feelings. Sometimes they just are because they are.

Welcome to the human experience, I guess.

This too, shall pass.

That sounds cliche, I know, but honestly it’s so true. If you hang on long enough, something else will get in your field of vision and take those feelings down a notch if you allow them to.

That means simply accepting that you’re having the feelings and feel them. We’re kind of afraid to feel our feelings. We want them to go away so we can just get on with it.

But we have to pass through this particular forest if we want to get to the open meadow.

Accepting your feelings doesn’t mean you’re okay with them. But you can’t move through them until you acknowledge their existence.

Billy Joel was right. That breeze did blow in later. The cloud eventually lifted once I got busy with my work.

Take the time to care for yourself.

Those feelings clued me in to how I was feeling about my work. It was like a little flag telling me to pay attention here.

It was a tough environment, and I was getting weary of the struggle. My strong feelings that morning reminded me that I have to be proactive about managing myself. I was the only one who could choose how to respond in that environment even if I wasn’t responsible for things being difficult.

This experience prompted me to be kind to myself that day. I made sure to schedule regular breaks and I made sure I took care of myself emotionally as I navigated a tough environment.

I had my selfcare radar up all day.

What makes this song so great is how uptempo it is. It’s a pretty happy sounding song with a serious message.

I guess I heard that message when I needed to hear it.

I won’t say I went skipping in to work that day, but the song reminded me that powerful emotions are part of this human game.

Sometimes the little things can give you what you need to get through the day. While it may be a little silly that a 35-year-old song helped me through the day, I used what was available to me to help me refocus my attention.

That’s about as hard as it needs to get.

Here’s hoping you find inspiration and courage in small ways today!

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Ep 94: When is it okay to quit?

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We all know that saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.” Is that true? There are plenty of folks in history who stopped doing one thing that wasn’t working for them so they could pull a lever on something that does. But how do you know?

We can get a few clues from this weekend’s kerfuffle over NFL quarterback Andrew Luck. He’s a quitter. For all the right reasons. Here are a few things to take away from his story.

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Ep 94: When is it okay to quit?

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

This past weekend all of sports was aTwitter over the sudden retirement of Indianapolis Colts quarterback Andrew Luck. Literally days before the start of the regular season, Luck decided to pull the plug on a pretty great NFL football career.

In spite of some injury challenges in the past couple of years, he’s been able to soldier on to remain one of the top quarterbacks in the league.

And all at the age of 29, which seems very young when you haven’t been 29 for a while. 😂

One of his reasons for retiring was the mental game that came with the physical game. Battling back from injury is just as hard emotionally as it is physically, because of all that injury can represent.

  • Will it end my season?
  • Will it have long term repercussions?
  • Is this all worth the wear and tear on my body?

That narrative is always running in the background for athletes at his level.

It seems Andrew Luck got weary of that battle.

Most of the responses I heard to his announcement were similar to my own when I heard the news: Hey, you’re 29, you’re wealthy, live it up!

But I wonder how hard it is to quit your life long dream.

I’ve never done that. I’ve quit some jobs, sure, but none of them were representative of my entire work history since I was a kid.

What is it like to intentionally remove yourself from all you’ve ever known, while things still seem to be going well?

Quitting something big and important SHOULD be hard because quitting shouldn’t be taken lightly. But it should be something you’re willing to do.

As much as we’re encouraged to never give up, sometimes giving up what we’ve been working towards is what might actually move us forward.

There’s no easy way to know what’s not working for you anymore but we can draw a few clues from Andrew Luck’s story.

One thing that keeps us distracted is all the resources our race to the dream may be giving us.

As you keep moving up and hitting new goals, there are benefits and perks. It’s exciting to see what extra stuff your hard work can bring.

But sometimes the chase becomes more about those resources than the dream itself.

Who has more resources than an NFL quarterback? Imagine that your week starts with everyone focusing on what YOU need to be successful.

  • Here’s your training schedule, just show up and a trainer will tell you what to do.
  • Here’s some films to look at. You don’t have to watch all of last week’s game. We already curated the most important parts for you to watch.
  • Your nutritionist has coordinated with your personal chef to make sure your nutritional needs can be met.
  • Make sure you get your nap in before today’s practice so you can be fresh.
  • And everywhere you go people applaud you for your performance at work last week.

Is that how your job goes? I’m guessing most likely not. But there’s probably really good stuff about your goals and pursuits that makes it hard to walk away.

It’s easy to lose sight of yourself in a place like this. This is why it’s so important to interact with your values and internalize them. It helps keep the seductive extras in their proper perspective so you don’t get stuck.

Another measuring stick for quitting is what that dream is costing you.

Is your health at risk? Does your goal or dream keep you from a healthy state of mind? It seems this is where Andrew Luck hit a wall.

No one expects that playing football at such a high level is going to be easy on your body and mind. That’s the trade off and that’s part of the negotiation for their crazy expensive contracts. Even the best dreams have a cost.

But when that cost starts affecting your ability to function well or keeps you from what you value most, that’s a problem.

We tend to glorify this intense approach today. If we look at our business heroes, many of them encourage this extreme version of hustle and grind.

Now, you definitely can’t move forward with anything unless you apply some pressure.

But hustle at any cost can leave you empty, angry and alone. I’m pretty sure that’s on no one’s bucket list.

The mental game can wear you out because you’re so deep in your head you can’t see what others see. So it’s hard to take any constructive feedback, and it’s really hard to know when you’re getting to an unhealthy place.

Taking a step back can sometimes reveal what you can’t see when you’re in the middle of it all trying to move everything forward.

This is why it’s so important to make time for reflection. When you’re on the field all the time you just can’t see what others see from a higher view. So it’s harder for you to know when it’s time to move on to the sideline for a bit.

Here’s a less compelling reason for quitting something hard: it may be time for you to let others take the field.

This is especially true when you’re in leadership. If you’re effective as a leader, you will have someone coming up behind you who is preparing to be the next one with the ball.

This sounds good on paper but it’s hard to reconcile in real life. Chances are you have made your mark in your own way in your pursuit of this goal. Others have noticed.

Why would you give this up so someone else can get the recognition?

Andrew Luck knows that his team has been working with his backup to be ready for any situation. No doubt he has played some role in that preparation, too.

It takes a lot of humility to understand that the team may be better off with this fresh approach than if Luck stayed in his current disengaged state.

Moving out of that spotlight allows someone else to shine, sure. But it also lets you find a new light for yourself.

You can’t explore that if you’re not willing to let others move forward in their journey, too.

Andrew Luck made a decision that most of us are unwilling to make even without as much at stake. In today’s world of material success, people just don’t walk away from that kind of future.

I’m certainly not saying you should quit something because it’s getting hard. There’s a part of the pursuit where the difficulty builds endurance and resilience in you.

But I think you also have to be willing to quit sometimes to go to the next level.

Part of our stress today comes from directing our efforts at things that just don’t matter to us. Or that we’ve simply outgrown. Or that we’re doing because that’s what we’ve always done.

There are no absolute clues for when to step back. That’s why knowing your values is so important.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the very pursuits that used to bring you joy, or you’re emotionally exhausted from the hunt for your goal, it may be time to assess your game plan.

Don’t be afraid to ask yourself good questions about where you are and where you want to be.

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Ep 93: Does social media stress you out?

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After a little more than a decade on social media, the luster has rubbed off a bit. It’s become as much of a stressor as a stress reliever. Yet, we still feel obligated to keep up with it for some weird reason.

How can you find a rightful place for social media in your life? Here are a few of my thoughts.

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Ep 93: Does social media stress you out?

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

Have you ever had a time where you’re like, “You know what? I’m just quitting all of social media? I’m done. If you need me, pin a message to a hacky sack and hurl it over my fence. I’ll give you a shout on the walkie talkie if I’m interested in what you have to say!” 😂

Social media has become such a deeply woven part of our days that it now feels like another thing we’re trying to wrangle and put into submission. Like we need any more wrangling in our days.

That’s kind of strange given that it started as a way to connect with others who share your interests or to make new friends, or whatever Tom over at MySpace was telling us at the time. It was all good and fun in those days.

It’s true. Social media can give us so much information, spread awareness of important issues and give us a powerful way to stay in each others lives in spite of where we live.

There are some really good things about social media.

But some days, it feels like an extra drain on our already overwhelmed psyches.

And if you’re prone to distraction, it’s even harder.

Social media feels very much like an either/or proposition. You’re either really into it or really fed up with it. Beyond just shutting it all down, how do you find some balance with it?

Understand that your tug of war with any technology is not about your device or the potential evil aspirations of Facebook.

It’s not even about Russia. 😲😂

It’s about you.

You always hold the power to choose where you place your attention. You are the gatekeeper for what you allow to enter your tired psyche. So it’s not so much about the fact that you own a device that gives you so much access. Or that what’s on it is so addictive.

I know there’s a ton of research on how addictive social media has become for so many. And the developers go out of their way to tap into our reward centers to keep us coming back.

But even with that, it doesn’t absolve us of the responsibility of managing our own attention. We still own that 100 percent of the time.

Your use of social media is still about the boundaries you choose to place on your time.

If you’re consistently evaluating your values and priorities, it’s a lot easier to find a more constructive role for social media. It finds its place in your life just like any other entertainment. You know when it’s time to set it aside.

The biggest problem is that social media has expertly given us a convenient way to avoid what we’re uncomfortable with. Instead of finding healthy ways to deal with your stress, you need only reach in your pocket to kill time and blow off some steam.

It’s just too easy.

That may defer the effects of the stress for a little while, but then you still have to re-enter the world where your life is actually happening. And that seems to be getting harder and harder for us to do because there are so many unique ways for us to escape.

Keep in mind that social media amplifies something that’s already there.

If you suffer from low self-esteem, for example, you have a ready-made product in your pocket to feed that insecurity. Whether it’s seeing others who you think look better than you or seeing others advance ahead of you, that comparison game brings out what you already feel you lack.

That insecurity may have started years ago. You may have formed rules in your own head about the value you bring to the world. That’s something you need to work on for yourself in order to feel good about who you are.

So it’s really less about what social media does to you as much as what it brings out of you.

This is yet another opportunity to draw some boundaries and do good work to improve how you see your world and your role in it.

Is social media adding to our stress?

The short answer is yes but only because we’ve chosen it. Consider that stress has been around long before social media. Imagine living in a time where your ability to hunt food and bring it home was your metric for the day.

How stressful do you think that was?

What we’re experiencing today isn’t the same kind of stress. Our stressors are typically not life-threatening on a daily basis. But we do have a lot of zingers coming our way every day, big and small. Social media has given us an easy way to forget about our stressors.

And that’s okay to a point. But when we prefer to escape over trying to solve our problems, that’s a problem. And we can do that with anything, not just social media.

In order to effectively handle our stress, we have to find the courage to interact with our problems and come up with solutions.

That’s where we start to feel like we have a little bit of control over what happens to us.

So is social media the evil it seems to be? The jury may still be out on that one. But it’s really not about social media.

It’s about knowing what we value and what’s important to us. That’s where we find a sense of purpose and meaning in spite of our stress.

And that is always in our pocket if we choose to engage with it.

You can catch episodes of Mental Health Moment by visiting mymentalhealthmoment.com. Don’t forget to subscribe to Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Just search for “Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.”

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Ep 91: The little beanie that could

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Have you ever looked at a plant growing up through your driveway and thought, “Man, that’s impressive!” It is, but not for the reasons you think. Plants understand how to use the existing structure to get where they want to go.

You can do the same in your own life.

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Ep 91: The little beanie that could

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

One of the first science lessons most of us get is about plants. Maybe you did the same experiment I did with a styrofoam cup, a bean seed, and a windowsill.

This experiment was more about hope than science.

It didn’t seem possible that a tiny bean seed would contain any kind of material that could overcome the heavy dirt laying over the top of it.

If you were impatient like me, you probably dug it up a few times because nothing was happening.

But about the time you think nothing’s happening, BOOM! A little green shoot pops up through the soil and away it goes.

We’re pretty impressed by that but at the same time we know that seeds do grow in dirt. So it’s in its natural environment.

But when a plant busts through concrete, well that’s a whole other thing. We’re pretty impressed by that.

The idea that a tiny plant can bust through concrete defies logic.

But here’s the thing.

The plant isn’t so much busting through, as much as finding its way through.

Concrete contains microscopic cracks. As our little plant deepens its root system, it uses sensors on the roots to sniff out these little cracks.

Once it finds a good one, it forces its way in. Our little beanie draws power from its growing root system, and over time actually displaces the concrete near this crack, breaking it apart and crumbling it in search of light above.

It doesn’t do this because it’s so tough. It finds sunshine because it found the path of least resistance.

We busy humans associate the path of least resistance with laziness. But it’s a pretty common principle in nature.

  • Water flows downhill pretty much all the time.
  • Predators prey on the weaker ones.
  • Even electricity looks for the easiest way.

There’s no glory for that plant in using all his energy to raise that concrete. It might be more impressive but his goal isn’t to bench press the driveway.

The goal for our little beanie is to find his way to where he can find sustenance so he can keep growing.

Why would he use all of his best energy to try to break through something ridiculously heavy when he could just find his way through an area that’s already open?

What can we learn from our little beanie?

Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it’s the right way to go.

The right way might be the easier way, and that’s okay. We’ve developed a kind of martyrdom about our modern lives. If it’s not a gladiator-style effort, somehow it’s not worth doing.

Your Herculean effort might give you a great story to tell, but it may very well take energy you could use for something else.

Sometimes it’s okay to push the easy button if it gets you where you want to go.

It’s okay to exploit the cracks.

It’s not cheating, it’s practical. And in some cases, it might be the only way to move at all.

The right crack can lead you to the top where the light shines. That’s where you need to be.

You can’t grow unless you have sustenance.

Stubbornly staying under a heavy rock on principle will only suffocate you. You might be able to say that you didn’t take the easy way out. But no will hear you because they’ll be up top high-fiving and growing with our beanie friend.

Finding your way through to the light is just the first step.

Once you get up to the top you might be tempted to think you’ve made it. Take a break and mark your progress, but just know that now is when the real growth can start.

Because you didn’t spend all your good energy trying to do the hardest thing, now you can focus on taking in all that the world has to offer.

You’ll still have to overcome some challenges up here but you already know you have what it takes.

Don’t be afraid to use what you already have to make your life work better.

You can catch episodes of Mental Health Moment by visiting mymentalhealthmoment.com. Don’t forget to subscribe to Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Just search for “Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.”

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Ep 90: How do you want to finish?

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What’s the prize for all that you do? It feels anymore like our days are consumed by the race to achieve and just keep afloat for another day. It’s easy to lose sight of the finish line you envisioned when you started this whole thing.

Here are a couple of ways to get the finish line back in your sights.

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Ep 90: How do you want to finish?

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

Some days feel like a qualifying lap at the Daytona Speedway don’t they?

You know there’s a finish here somewhere but you also know you have to make a certain time before you can think about how you finish.

What are you racing towards exactly?

I read an article in The Atlantic this morning that set my mind asking this question. The article is called “How Life Became an Endless, Terrible Competition.” I’ll include a link to it on the web version of this episode at LoriMiller.me if you want to read it.

The author focuses on how work and life have turned into kind of a glorification of achievement and competition. For many, it’s become a frenetic race of nonstop milestones and desperate grabs for status.

And the prize for those who “win” this race is more responsibility, longer hours, and a constantly shifting sense of the wrong priorities.

So the end of the race is not a place to arrive, to kick back and enjoy the spoils. It’s like more of the same…but a lot more.

That doesn’t sound like winning.

The author covers a lot of different territory in the article that’s way outside my expertise, like the fight for economic equality. But his point here got my mind working.

For all of our daily efforts and the stress that we take on to meet our goals, sometimes we have to keep asking ourselves, now WHAT’S the prize exactly?

  • Of course you want to advance and do well and make your mark in your career.
  • You want to know that you’re leaving a powerful legacy at home for those who are coming behind you.

You’re not afraid to dig in and do the things that will make that happen.

But you also want to find some meaning and purpose in each day apart from the constant focus on the next lap coming up.

Why are we okay staying so busy running a race we barely understand and that doesn’t seem to really be getting us to a finish line?

I guess we magically think things will somehow fall into place while we’re busy taking care of stuff. I know I have to challenge myself with that one all the time.

You can find destination and purpose and run your race well. But you may have to make a few intentional tweaks.

The first thing to do is to let go of what’s not working for you.

I say this a lot because it’s true. 😂 It’s the first place to look.

What are you currently doing that is not working for you and not taking you where you want to go? Ask yourself what you are getting from that activity or that relationship.

I think this comes back to your values.

Where do you really want to go?

Values are lifelong pursuits. There’s no finish line with values because they’re ongoing as long as you’re breathing. So it’s really easy for your values to get overwhelmed by your more finite responsibilities.

If every day feels like you’re running up on the down escalator, look at your life and assess exactly where your values are being crowded out.

Make time for reflection and experience.

On those days when you go from thing, to thing, to thing, it’s hard to find time to stop and look back over your day.

  • Where were your wins?
  • What did you miss?
  • What can you give yourself credit for?

This is like watching films after a football game. Successful teams always go back and watch their performance. They look for improvement opportunities they couldn’t see while they were in the middle of it all on the field.

That’s their time to make changes that will help them improve their performance in the next game.

Find even just a few minutes every day to schedule this film time for yourself.

  • What should you be doing more of?
  • What should you reassess?
  • What should you just cut entirely?

Find that small nugget of time to put yourself through these paces. It may change your pace in the race.

Above all, stay in your lane.

A visiting pastor to our church spoke about this just a few weeks ago. If you run a race with your head turned sideways, always looking around to see what others are up to, you’ll lose.

And you might run into something you don’t expect. Your race is ahead of you and it’s your race. You can go as fast or as slow as you want.

It’s tempting to see where others are, but you don’t know what challenges they may be dealing with in their lane. Their position on the track has nothing to do with you.

Because you know your values, you know where you want your race to end up. How someone else runs their race won’t get you where you want to go.

Life doesn’t have to be an endless, terrible competition with no clear destination. You can run your race with vision, purpose and clarity.

You can realize your goals and dreams and live your values right to the finish line.

You can catch episodes of Mental Health Moment by visiting mymentalhealthmoment.com. Don’t forget to subscribe to Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Just search for “Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.”

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Ep 89: How you feel and what you do

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Do feelings matter the most in good mental health? Or is it more about how well we function? Well, it’s both, really. But I think we place so much value on how we feel that we forget how much our behaviors contribute towards our mental health.

Here are a few ways to use behaviors to influence your feelings.

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Ep 89: How you feel and what you do

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

Having good mental health is all about feeling good, right?

If things are going well, we feel happy and grateful that things are going our way.

We may not actively seek out help or support because we have good feelings about where we are.

But it also feels good when you get things done, when you make things happen for yourself. If you’re like me, sometimes you make things happen in spite of feeling cranky or like life isn’t cutting you any breaks at all. You demonstrate healthy behaviors regardless of how you feel.

You wouldn’t necessarily say you feel good but you can see that the train is inching forward, and so that’s good.

So which is it?

Feeling good or demonstrating the behaviors that are working for you?

Welcome to our modern quandary.

I’m not sure we know which one brings us what we want from life. We like to feel like we’re accomplishing something here but we also just want to wake up with happy and content feelings just because.

Fair enough.

Even the psychological community doesn’t settle it. Consider the diagnostic bible called the DSM (or The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders).

The diagnosis of a mental disorder is based quite a bit on observable criteria that look a lot like behaviors, because they are.

If you’re demonstrating symptoms of depression, you may:

  • sleep less or more,
  • isolate from others,
  • lose interest in things you used to enjoy,
  • become more tearful or irritable,
  • lose or gain weight,
  • become more forgetful,
  • or abuse substances.

All things I can see without asking you. To be fair, there are some subjective criteria for depression: feeling sad, hopeless, or restless, feelings of worthlessness or thoughts of death.

But the overwhelming focus in a diagnosis is on what behaviors I can observe about you.

In fact, in spite of of how you feel, the diagnosis comes when those behaviors keep you from performing well in some way.

  • Like you call in sick to work a lot because you just can’t get out of bed.
  • Or your productivity at work suffers because you can’t focus.
  • Or you abuse drugs or alcohol. I don’t need to tell you how damaging that can be in all the important domains of your life.

I’m not saying your feelings don’t matter. But your behaviors or lack of behaviors, are what can make your life so hard to manage well.

And that can make you feel unhappy or sad.

So getting some progress going with your behaviors can go a long way to helping you feel better.

That’s why people with severe depression may be encouraged to just do a few small things to get moving, even if they’re not feeling it in the moment.

The reality is that good mental health is somewhere in between feeling good and functioning well.

Most of us understand that life has ups and downs that affect how we feel and how we act.

But one thing I’ve observed is just how powerful behaviors can be on those days when you can’t seem to put it together otherwise.

Focusing on your actions can be an agnostic way to lean in to something that feels more objective until your feelings decide to come along on the ride. Hopefully you can accomplish this without judging the outcome or beating yourself up.

So how can you leverage some healthy behaviors to help you on the feeling side?

First, you can make healthy behaviors a ritual part of your day, a habit.

You commit to the time, and take action because you already decided you would. These behaviors can be things like exercise, reading uplifting materials, or helping others. But honestly, they can be anything that you do every day that helps you.

Keep in mind, it takes time to develop a kind of muscle memory with a healthy behavior. But once you do, you find yourself thinking a little less about the merits of the activity itself, and it’s easier not to talk yourself out of it. You’re just on “go” mode, so you go.

This is very powerful and will carry you on the days when you’re not feeling it.

Second, you need to get some accountability and real connection in your life.

If I can see your behaviors, others can, too. You don’t need to be a therapist to notice that someone is struggling, withdrawn and isolated. You need people in your life who will miss you when you’re not around, notice things about you and who will check in with you. That may mean you have to reach out to others first to get this connection and accountability going.

But it is one action that can improve your life exponentially.

Loneliness is a feeling that much of the world is struggling with right now, in epidemic proportions. That feeling can be lessened by taking more intentional action in how much you interact with others.

Third, have some go-to behaviors in your pocket to counter your difficult feelings.

You know your triggers and many times, you know when you’re likely to feel vulnerable. On the days we struggle, one of the hardest things to do is to sit with those difficult feelings without knowing what to do.

That’s when rumination and obsessive thinking take over.

If you struggle with a certain feeling in a certain situation, have a plan for what you will do when you have that feeling.

If your coffee time this morning had you worrying about how the rest of this week is going to go, take a few minutes now to go for a walk. Exercise is a slam dunk for anxiety. If that works, make that your plan. Then, any time you feel anxious, you go for a walk. That’s just what you do.

Now you don’t have to think about it in the moment when your feelings have already hit the floor.

Feelings and behaviors go hand-in-hand for a life that helps you feel productive and purposeful.

You need both.

It’s nice to feel good but it’s not the only metric of a life that is taking you where you want to go.

Part of good mental health is being resilient to handle the challenges that come your way and being able to take real action to stay on track.

Leverage both your feelings and healthy behaviors to feel good.

You can catch episodes of Mental Health Moment by visiting mymentalhealthmoment.com. Don’t forget to subscribe to Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Just search for “Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.”

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Ep 88: Take care of your own “at-bat”

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Okay, I managed to go 87 episodes without bringing up baseball…until today! ⚾😀 I was hoping for a comeback win in today’s Yankees game, but alas, it was not to be.

But if they had pulled it out, it would have been because each player owned his turn at the plate. You can find some parallels for this in your life outside the ballpark.

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Ep 88: Take care of your own "at-bat"

Photo credit: Me! Derek Jeter taking one of a bajillion at-bats at a game in Yankee stadium on April 10, 2010. I sure did love taking pictures at Yankee Stadium. 😊

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

If you’re a fan of baseball, or any sport, you know the feeling when the game’s almost over and your team’s down by a lot.

It’s not a fun feeling, and usually at this point of the game the concession stand is closed so there’s no way to distract yourself.

Your team’s down by six runs and it’s the bottom of the eighth inning. You appreciate your pitcher’s efforts to keep the other team where they are, but you have low expectations for that ninth inning coming up.

The other team’s lead looks insurmountable. I mean, physically a comeback in the bottom of the ninth could be possible, but not likely.

Heaven and earth would have to move to make that happen.

You wonder if you should join the trickle of fans you see heading towards the exits.

Maybe they’re right. It might be more practical to get out of the parking lot without a hassle than to witness the inevitable end.

While you’re scanning the expanse of empty seats around you, suddenly you hear that unmistakable cracking sound.

You whip your head around to see that the ninth inning started while you were doing all that looking around. And your team just got a hit.

You’re on base, yes!

Still, you’re not too pumped up. There’s a lot of room between where you are now and actually winning this thing.

There’s still a lot of baseball that has to happen in a short period of time.

And besides, how can the players even get themselves in a position mentally to do that? Don’t they see the bleak picture here, too?

You watch in stunned silence while your team racks up hit after hit, brings in a few runs, and works a few walks. Finally, the winning run walks up to the plate.

  • Now your expectations have come up.
  • Now a win seems doable and real.

But this player isn’t your big bopper, your clean up guy, or your superstar. It’s a utility player. A solid player for sure, but not the one that has the pitcher shaking in his cleats.

And then, CRACK! He gives that ball a ride! Right over the wall!

Game over and your team just came from being down six runs in the ninth to win this thing.

The remaining true fans like you rise to their feet, high fiving everyone in sight and saying how you knew it all along.

Your team just moved heaven and earth apparently.

While you were gazing around trying to figure out when to leave the ballpark, your team was focused on winning.

Kind of.

All teams would say they focus on winning.

But your team understood that winning is simply the result of each player taking care of his own at-bat.

What does that mean?

First of all, let me give credit to former Yankees pitcher David Cone for using that phrase a lot; which is ironic since he knows more about pitching a perfect game than focusing on at-bats.

Anyway, an “at-bat” is simply a player’s single turn at the plate. An at-bat could result in an out, a strikeout or a hit. If the player gets his bat in perfect position to the incoming ball, he might hit a home run.

Now he’s a hero.

But that doesn’t happen often. Statistically he’s more likely to strike out. That’s just the reality of baseball.

But if he’s a decent player there’s about a 25% chance he’ll get a hit that can put him in position for a run.

If he focuses on all that while standing in the batter’s box, though, he’s going to add to his strikeouts for sure.

He knows that his task is simply to keep his eye on each pitch as it comes.

Not the next pitch and not the one that came before.

And he’s certainly not thinking about his teammate’s at-bat just before him or whether or not the next batter will bring it home like a hero.

That’s not how you keep your head together when it looks hopeless.

He’s focused on being in HIS box with HIS pitch in HIS present moment.

He’s doing his very best to take care of what HE’s responsible for.

He’s taking care of his own at-bat.

The winning part isn’t really up to him.

How do you handle your days when you’re in a deep hole with no way to win outside of heaven and earth?

Do you trust in your ability to take care of what you can take care of? To keep your eye on what you know and trust your training?

Do you focus on what you bring to the plate in this moment for this situation and just execute that?

It’s easy to lose sight of all that when you feel like there’s no way you can win.

When things look pretty hopeless, it’s so easy to want to look outside of our own box.

We look for other people to blame and desperately grapple for any solution that doesn’t require us to just focus on our one part.

You can’t control how others play the game.

And you certainly can’t control how others standing behind you are seeing the pitches.

You can only focus on where you choose to place your attention right now and how you respond to each situation that comes across the plate, as it comes.

If you can relax and stay focused on what’s in front of you right now, you may look up and realize that you put yourself in a position to actually win.

Now you just need a little extra effort to get you over the wall.

Find ways today to focus on your own turn at the plate.

Do what you can do to inch this thing forward and stop worrying about the result.

You can catch episodes of Mental Health Moment by visiting mymentalhealthmoment.com. Don’t forget to subscribe to Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Just search for “Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.”

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Ep 85: Your awkward self

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Sometimes we think we’re the only ones who feel awkward. But it’s something we all go through. Here’s one of my own spectacular displays of awkwardness.

Not only did I survive it, but it has given me something fun to look back on. It’s okay to just be your awkward self.

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Ep 85: Your awkward self

Hi. I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

This back to school time is a good reminder of what awkwardness feels like. It’s hard enough to be a kid or a teenager, but then worrying about how you’re coming across to others can be a real mind wrecker.

Unfortunately that awkwardness doesn’t always go away when school’s over, does it?

Here I am pushing the half century mark, and I still have way too many Lucy Ricardo moments in my week.

And these moments aren’t things I can really plan for or prevent. They just kind of happen, and I’m suddenly faced with a moment where I feel like I look silly or did everyone hear this weird thing I just said?

In all honesty, publishing Mental Health Moment can be awkward sometimes because I’m always wondering if maybe this episode was a little too quirky.

So that little high school awkwardness is still roaming around my own yard a bit.

I come by this feeling honestly because when I do get really awkward, I tend to do it in a big way.

A few years ago we were visiting family in Texas for the holidays. Our connecting flight home to Florida was supposed to take us through the very large Houston Intercontinental Airport.

Naturally, our first flight was running late — very, very late. When we got off our plane, we realized we had just 15 minutes to change terminals and get to the very end of the largest concourse to catch our next plane.

It seemed like there was no way but we had to try, right?

We immediately started that zombie walk-run-swinging arms move you do in an airport when you’re in a hurry.

We managed to change terminals with no issues. But once we stepped off the tram that took us to Terminal C, I knew we were in trouble.

Our window to board the plane was now at about five minutes and we had still had to go all the way to the end of the concourse.

If you fly enough, you know once they close the door that leads to the plane, it’s game over. Capt. Sully wouldn’t be able to pry that door open.

My husband was chivalrously pulling most of the suitcases so I figured this was my moment.

If it’s to be it’s up to me, you know?

So I just took off running towards the gate.

If you know me, you know I don’t run. At all. Ever.

In fact, if you see me running you should run too because I’m probably being chased by something.

I kept my focus firmly on that gate number and let my feet fly through the busy crowds. My husband told me later that I hurdled a couple of pretty good sized strollers but I’m not so sure about that.

Still, I was on the move.

Once I got close enough, I saw the gate attendant make his way to the jetway door — and open it!

Oh no, no, no, I said to myself.

I raced through the pods of seats at the gate and yelled, “Hey!”

The man turned around.

I slammed my boarding pass down on his little desk, and with zero air in my lungs declared like a warrior princess, “I’m supposed to be on this plane and so is my family!”

“Yes ma’am,” he said, completely devoid of any emotion.

“You and the 200 people standing behind you.”

They hadn’t even boarded the plane yet. 😲

I turned around and to my horror, those 200 people were now clapping for me.

I almost always sit in the back of the room so this kind of attention felt like 14 different kinds of hot flashes happening all at the same time.

I didn’t know what to think. I tried to laugh. I may have taken a bow, I don’t remember.

I felt so awkward and embarrassed.

As I took my spot in line with my family and fanned myself with my boarding pass trying to calm down, my husband leaned over and said, “Do you see that man over there?”

I saw a man standing just a few feet from us, smiling and talking to the people in line behind him.

“That’s Romeo Crennel,” he said. “He’s the defensive coordinator for the Houston Texans. He was clapping for you, too!”

🙈

And that’s when I decided, the whole thing was just too freakin’ funny.

  • Was he impressed with my speed?
  • Did he see me throw a few blocks when I was moving through that crowd back there?

The football jokes started spilling out. I realized that even though this was, I think, THE most awkward and embarrassed I’ve ever been, I created this pretty great memory for my family.

No one has let me forget it.

Now I wasn’t perceiving my awkwardness here. This is about as real as it gets.

But you know what?

Within a few minutes, those 200 people had already moved on.

They were more focused on getting home to Florida than thinking about the awkward girl running through the airport.

I did get a few thumbs up as we walked to our seats on the plane, but mostly the experience was over.

So now it was up to me to decide how I was going to conceptualize all this.

What would I take away from it?

If that story didn’t normalize awkwardness for you, here’s a little additional ointment to put on your own awkwardness.

First of all, as you can see, awkwardness happens to all of us.

I can’t tell you how many people have told me how awkward they sometimes feel in therapy. They wonder later when they play the tapes back in their head if they said something silly or that I must think they’re the most awkward person I’ve ever met.

These are people from all walks of life who are accomplished and purposeful and don’t appear to have an awkward bone in their body.

I let them know that feeling awkward is sometimes just part of getting to know someone. It’s part of the process.

We’re all sailing in this particular boat together.

Second, you’re probably not as awkward as you think.

We are so wrapped up in our own heads, dissecting every thought and analyzing our every action.

How much are you thinking about someone else’s awkwardness right now?

You’re not, right?

You’re too focused on your own issues and circumstances.

Others are doing that exact same thing, too.

I wonder how many of those people in that airport even remember my little amazing race today.

If you do have a genuinely awkward moment, then just know that this is part of what makes us human.

Taking awkwardness too seriously only serves to drive you underground and keeps you from taking the risks that will move you forward.

Unless it costs you something tremendous, most likely an awkward moment was just simply that … one awkward moment in time.

Keeping a healthy attitude can provide you some great stories for the future. I love telling my awkward and embarrassing airport story because it’s just so me.

I can get so focused on something that I miss really obvious stuff sometimes. Like a crowd of 200 people!

Accepting those awkward moments can help you weather some of the crazy stuff in life because none of us can predict anything anyway.

You may as well be able to learn from it, laugh at it and enjoy some of it.

You can catch episodes of Mental Health Moment by visiting mymentalhealthmoment.com. Don’t forget to subscribe to Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Just search for “Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.”

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