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Mental Health Moment on break

It’s summer, and my son is getting married this month! 💞❤

So I’m taking a short break from new episodes of Mental Health Moment.

I’ll return with NEW EPISODES on June 24.

Until then, here’s a few early episodes you may have missed!

 

Episode 2: Sticky note wins the day

 

 

 

Episode 3: Don’t stress exercise

 

 

 

Episode 4: Deep breathing isn’t just “take a deep breath”

 

 

 

Episode 5: Five things (and also 20 things) to reduce stress

 

 

 

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Ep 58: Finding meaning and purpose through resilience

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Meaning and purpose aren’t just a one-stop destination you fulfill at the end of your life. You can find meaning and purpose in every day. And you create it every day with those around you.

Tapping into your strengths and looking forward — the ingredients for resilience — frees you up to settle in to your purpose by doing what you do best.

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Ep 58: Finding meaning and purpose through resilience

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

So far this week in this series on resilience we’ve defined resilience as being able to identify resources and taking action to help yourself.

When we start focusing on our strengths and looking to the future, we discover that our purpose starts to reveal itself.

Do you think about your purpose a lot?

I know ever since I was a little girl I thought maybe there was this one thing that I was supposed to do. One way that my life would impact other people.

I was pretty focused on it. I sure didn’t want to miss my purpose because I wanted my life to matter.

I was a very serious little girl wasn’t I? 🤓

My teen years and early adulthood centered around trying to figure out that one thing that would take me to my purpose. Never mind that I wasn’t 100% sure what that purpose was exactly.

This put pressure on me because every new effort required some kind of direct line to this ill defined purpose.

I surely didn’t want to waste any time doing something that wasn’t going to lead me to that ultimate singular purpose.

I remember this time being full of busyness and constant activity. I felt overwhelmed a lot.

But I just thought this was part of having a sense of meaning and purpose in your life.

What I’ve discovered now that I’m a middle aged adult, is that my purpose isn’t measured by one destination.

It’s lived out hundreds of times a day in how I interact with others.

My purpose isn’t about one big thing that I can put on my tombstone one day.

The more I understand that the more I am able to give myself a break when I miss something. And the more I give myself a break the less stressed I feel.

Funny how that works.

I heard Tony Robbins say one time that this relentless search for meaning and purpose that we modern world citizens are looking for is a relatively new thing.

Just a little more than 100 years ago, people did not expect to to live a very long time. And for whatever time you were alive, life was more about survival and taking care of immediate daily needs.

Your meaning and purpose was most likely to put food on your table.

Meaning and purpose didn’t have the same front row seat that it does now in our profoundly abundant world.

This search for so many of us is a relatively new phenomenon in the history of humanity.

So it’s totally okay if you don’t have this figured out yet.

Part of staying resilient to stress is knowing that your efforts are leading to something.

Of course you want to be intentional and make sure you’re doing the best you can to live out your purpose.

You want to know that you can have some kind of control over where your life goes and how you can impact your future.

We all want to know that our time here on earth is well spent.

But sometimes I think we make this purpose thing too hard.

I think one of the greatest contributions to our stress is this constant push to be accomplishing something. Every activity, every effort has to lead to something.

And if you can’t find common themes or draw some lines, then you freak out because you start wondering:

  • Where is all this going?
  • What’s my purpose?
  • And is all this activity leading toward something?

Your purpose is not an event that you’re trying to get to.

It is something that you live out every day with the people you work with, with your family that you love and take care of, and with the parts of yourself that you share with others.

It’s entirely possible that you exist purely for other people to help them and to give them meaning in their life or encouragement that they need.

For me, this is exactly my purpose. The technical skills I bring to my whatever work I’m doing take a very distant backseat to the way that I encourage others and help them find their way to the next step.

I do this without thinking about it and I couldn’t tell you exactly how I do it.

But it is truly my purpose.

For all of the soul searching, the assessing of your skills, the focus on intention and disciplined effort, you may already be living your purpose.

Don’t get so caught up in finding your why that you miss the what that you bring to the world around you every day.

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Ep 53: Dig right where you are

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A trip to the beach earlier this week had me thinking about opportunity and childlike wonder. If you’re a kid, there’s not much else to do at the beach besides dig in the sand. It’s where you can create whatever you want, or just see how far you can dig.

How do we rediscover some of that same curiosity in pursuing what we want? How do we find the courage to dig right where we are now?

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Episode 53: Dig right where you are - A group of kids digging in the sand

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

The other night my husband and I found a few minutes to slip away to the beach in the early evening.

It’s one of the best ways for us to have a few minutes to put the stress of the day aside.

We use this time to catch up on anything and process our goals.

And sometimes we just sit there and say nothing.

After we got settled in, we saw a small, young family wander on to the beach just next to us.

The parents had their fishing gear fully in tow.

At the end of a long day, here was an opportunity to cast a line and enjoy the water while the kids have space to run out all their energy before going home.

Their two kids appeared to be about seven and five years old. This looked like an impromptu visit because the kids were still wearing their uniforms from school.

We definitely knew this little family was there because our quiet pondering was broken with sudden squealing and laughter as the kids ran straight to the water.

Those two wasted no time getting to the business of being at the beach.

The youngest one, the little girl, immediately knelt down and started digging in the sand.

She didn’t seem to notice she was still in her uniform. Both of her hands were expertly casting unneeded sand aside and making piles all around her.

I don’t know what she was digging for but she wasn’t messing around about it.

When her brother came back up from the water, she smiled at him and squealed in such delight.

“Hey, let’s dig a bunch of big holes and see how many we can make!”

My husband and I looked at each other and smiled.

I said to him, “Do you remember when your only goal in life was to just see how many holes you can dig? And how many people you can get to dig them with you?”

We both laughed. And then my husband said, “Isn’t it interesting how there’s really only 15 feet between being five years old and digging holes, and being in your 40s sitting in a chair talking about all the holes you’ve already dug?”

He was so right.

We start out curious and eager to see what we can do with our lives.

We don’t give much thought about whether there’s a real point to what we’re doing.

We just know that if you’re surrounded by opportunity, why wouldn’t you just start digging in and finding out what you can do?

But in what feels like just a little bit of time and distance, we find ourselves digging a little less.

After all, digging is messy.

We decide we might get more insight from watching others dig.

This will help us figure out what we still want to do.

Instead of engaging and being curious, we spend much of our time qualifying the value of the effort itself.

Digging just to dig loses its value.

What’s the point in that?

I’m not sure how much real meaning there was for the little girl in digging those holes.

All she knew was that she was at the beach where there was sand and lots of it. And she had two very capable hands.

What else could she do but dig?

She wasn’t thinking about if she should save some holes to dig for tomorrow, or try to make as many holes as she can to please someone else.

And she certainly had no thought for what others around her might be thinking about whether digging holes was a good idea in the first place.

Digging holes was enough for her.

Maybe there’s really only 15 feet between where we are now and where we would really like to be.

How can we get back to that original feeling of curiosity and delight to just be surrounded by opportunity and not even know where to start?

Could our dreams and goals really be as simple as racing to the one spot where we have everything we need to just dig holes?

Maybe it’s as simple as deciding to just dig in to what we want right where we are.

Can we just dig the holes and celebrate that with anyone who will listen?

Maybe this weekend you could find some time to simply enjoy the pleasure of something you love.

Maybe you would get delight in doing something for the sake of doing it, with no internal chatter about its worth or if it takes you somewhere closer to your goals.

How can you reconnect with the curiosity you started out with by just enjoying the dig?

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Ep 51: Stop howling and start moving

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I love the story of the old dog on the front porch. I think it illustrates the place most of us are familiar with at some point in our journey.

What changes will you make to stop your pain and start moving in a new direction?

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Ep 51: Stop howling and start moving - Beagle dog staring at the camera

This was a good excuse to put a cute dog in this post. You’re welcome! 😊

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

Today I have one simple thought for you.

Have you heard the story about the old dog?

There are a few versions of it, so here’s mine.

A man was taking a walk in a country town on an old dirt road.

He could see an old farmhouse in the distance.

As he got closer, he thought he heard a strange and sad sound. He stopped for a minute and listened, thinking it could be coming from the same direction as the house.

Sure enough, as the house became larger in the distance, the sound turned into the most God-awful wailing he’d ever heard.

On and on it went, one horrible gut-wrenching howl after another.

With the house right in front of him now, the man saw an old, floppy-eared dog sitting on the front porch.

It was super clear now where the sound was coming from.

Man, he thought, who knew all that weeping and wailing could come from one little dog?

The man saw an old farmer sitting in a rocking chair just next to the dog.

The man couldn’t help himself.

“Sir, your dog sure is making a lot of noise.“

“Yep,” the farmer replied as he rocked slowly in his chair.

“What’s wrong with him,“ asked the man.

“Why, he’s sittin’ on a nail,” he said.

The man smirked a little.

“Well that’s easy enough. Why doesn’t he just move off the nail?“

The farmer shrugged.

“Doesn’t hurt bad enough.”

What nail have you been sitting on?

If you’ve been hollering for a while and it’s not changing anything, maybe you’re missing the simple solution.

How much longer are you going to howl about your unsatisfying job?

Could you move off that nail to put yourself out there and find something better?

Or would moving the nail simply mean finding ways to re-engage your work right where you are?

Do you keep returning to the same place over and over again in your relationships?

Maybe your nail involves getting some therapy to figure out your unhealthy patterns that bring you right back to the same place every time.

Doing real work on your issues just might keep you from all that wailing on the front porch.

One thing is for sure, there will come a point when the pain will finally just be too much.

When that happens, you will have to face fear and discomfort to feel better. Somehow, that will seem like a more viable option than where you are right now.

This is where you will finally feel like you’re making progress.

The ironic thing is that you probably only need to move six inches in one direction to change your whole outlook.

And once you move off that nail and see how it wasn’t as hard as you thought, you’ll wish that farmer would’ve pointed it out to you long before.

What do you have to do to move off your nail?

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Ep 43: Why you should be okay with scraping some paint off

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Today’s episode is inspired by a quote from the unmatchable Bob Ross. There are so many good words to live by in his show, “The Joy of Painting.”

Learn why scraping off some paint isn’t such a bad idea. It just might help you get where you need to go.

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Ep 43 Don't be afraid to just scrape off some paint

Bob Ross and his Happy Tree at our church’s fall festival a couple of years ago.

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

This is one of my favorite quotes:

“Don’t be afraid to scrape the paint off and do it again. This is the way you learn, trial and error, over and over, repetition. It pays you great dividends, great, great dividends.”

That was my very best Bob Ross impression. I know. I’ll keep working on it. 😜

Before motivational speakers became an industry, there was a happy artist named Bob Ross.

After a long career in the Air Force, he became a public television star in the 1980s and 90s with a serene and mesmerizing how-to painting show called “The Joy of Painting.”

Each week we watched him paint a simple nature scene.

At least that’s what we thought he was doing.

Bob was in fact dropping some serious wisdom on us while he moved his brush over that canvas.

Quietly and patiently he would show us how to use the simple tools available to all of us — line, shadow and color — to create something beautiful.

  • Something happy.
  • Like a happy little tree or a cloud.

But he wasn’t afraid to show the mistakes, too. Because the mistakes led to what he called “happy little accidents.”

How did Bob know we needed these reminders?

  • To embrace the happy little accidents for the gifts they bring us?
  • To appreciate the value of scraping it all off and doing it again with a new direction?

I don’t know anyone who enjoys scraping off the work they thought was going to be the real deal.

  • Have you ever been disappointed by a job that you realized just wasn’t for you?
  • What about a relationship you could see was going nowhere?
  • Maybe this was the year you decided to focus on your personal goals and you keep ending up right back where you started.

To scrape it all off and start over seems like a waste, right?

Am I supposed to just be okay seeing all that effort I put into this now piling up in colored dust around my feet?

What about my beautiful picture?

Why can’t I get what I see in my head to connect with the effort coming from my hands?

I know, it feels like you keep seeing the same dull picture over and over.

But there is some hope in all that scraping.

The scraping is a necessary part of discovery.

Scraping requires that you put your first idea aside, no matter how inspired you thought it was.

That’s an act of humility.

You have to go through what’s not working to find what does work.

So what if your job isn’t what you thought?

What matters is what you take with you from the experience that you can use somewhere else.

Now you know.

Every experience matters and nothing is ever wasted.

All that scraping will be messy, yes.

That’s your hard work piled up on the floor around you.

But that pile gives you the chance to prove that you have yet another idea up your sleeve.

That carnage shows that the learning process is at work in you.

You’re not afraid to engage it, even if it means your whole picture has to change.

So leaving that toxic relationship lets you create the space in your life to learn what a healthy relationship looks like for you.

You’ll leave some good stuff behind for sure, but you won’t need it because you’ll be working on a much better picture.

Scraping gives you the space you need to get it right.

What did you miss the first time that you can add in now?

Do you realize you need more “happy tree people” around you to support you in your goals?

Go ahead and add them here.

You have room now because you took away what wasn’t working.

You can just put those trees everywhere now.

Scraping isn’t a destructive act.

It uses material from the past to create room for what’s to come.

It’s the territory where the war between your past and your future is fought.

What will you scrape off and just leave behind?

How much will you leave on the canvas to create something a little different?

Will you be brave enough to start scraping?

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Ep 42: How obedience to the process can free you up

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We don’t use the word obedience too much these days. It’s not a word that demonstrates power and mastery.

But obedience is the main driver behind anything you do. In order to see real change you have to submit yourself to a process that will get you moving.

In this episode, learn three ways to make obedience work for you.

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Ep 42: How obedience to the process can free you up - Babies crawling to walking

We start obedience to a process from the very beginning, don’t we?

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

Are you an obeyer? We don’t really like that word anymore, do we?

Here’s me raising my hand. I’m an obeyer.

In the past few weeks I’ve dedicated myself to write a Mental Health Moment episode every weekday.

It’s a writer’s dream to write and publish every day.

I love the idea that I can get my ideas out there so I can develop them and work with them. I thought the voice format would be something I could commit to more so than video, and it works well for how I like to write.

So I created a process to help me get it all done and keep the episodes coming.

This was so much fun because I got to play around with editorial workflows. Nerdy, I know but workflows are kind of my jam.

I’ve got a plan, and I think it’s a good one.

I’m all set to write and publish every day.

But where this thing gets real is in how I’m now committed to write and publish every day. Insert surprise face emoji here. 😂 😳

It doesn’t matter if:

  • My brain feels like peanut butter,
  • I’m super tired,
  • I’m not feeling inspired, or
  • My voice is jacked.

The plan says I do a Mental Health Moment every weekday.

I don’t want to upset the plan.

So I obey, and I do a Mental Health Moment.

And you know what? I get enormous pleasure from checking that “Mark Complete” ✔ box for that entry. (Actually there are about 8 subtasks for each episode, so technically I get to check off 9 boxes. Yes!).

As author and supreme majestic marketer Seth Godin says, I shipped something today.

I took an idea that formed over my morning coffee and made it live.

And I learn something new about myself with every episode.

I decided from the beginning that I’m going to be obedient to my process and not give in to all the noise in my head talking smack about how this is too much, or it may not work, or nobody’s listening.

I work the plan, and I obey the process.

Obedience doesn’t get the hashtag love like hustling, grinding, winning and inspiration.

Obedience is a hard sell on the motivational track.

That’s too bad because obedience is a very sexy player when it comes to making real change in your life.

Change doesn’t happen on its own, you know?

Whether it’s a goal for your health or career, or finally working through your issues, obedience is the engine that will power your change.

I mean, at some point you have to do what you’re supposed to do when you’re supposed to do it. That’s just how stuff gets done.

But you have to be humble enough to trust the process and just go with it.

So what are the principles of this kind of obedience?

First, to get the full value of obedience, you have to “set it and forget it.”

What results do you want to see? Make that decision now, and be super clear about what you need to do to get there. This removes any ambiguity about what you should do next.

Ambiguity will steal your best cognitive energy.

Don’t arm wrestle with yourself. Spell out what you want to see and do.

Once you set your direction, this isn’t the part where you get to ask questions that don’t matter.

  • Will this actually work?
  • Will others show up?
  • Will this matter a month from now?

Did any of those questions ever work when your mom told you it was time to mow the lawn? Probably not, right?

It’s Tuesday, and Tuesday is the day you always mow the lawn. Getting into a Law-and-Order-SUV-style 😜 discussion about the merits of mowing the lawn today don’t apply.

Be an obeyer, stay in your process and just mow the lawn already.

Second, obedience requires that you get comfortable not getting feedback right away on what you’re doing.

Everybody says this is a real issue among millennials. But I pretty much see this from everyone.

Just because someone doesn’t applaud you or recognize what you do, doesn’t mean you’re not responsible for doing it.

And it certainly doesn’t mean that what you’re doing isn’t working.

Part of obeying the process is being able to measure your own progress and link it back to your larger goal, regardless of what anybody else says or does.

This is especially important in the beginning of something new.

No one may really get what you’re doing. You may not even get what you’re doing.

If it takes you awhile to see this thing take shape, imagine how long it’s going to take for someone who’s not as close to it.

So feedback from others can’t be your only metric.

Learn to soothe yourself and be okay moving forward in obedience even when you don’t know how some stuff is really going.

Third, don’t let your feelings strangle your willingness to obey your process.

You simply can’t rely on your feelings to let you decide how invested you plan to be.

Part of obedience is being a bit agnostic about what you’re feeling or not feeling in this experience.

Do you ever remember a teacher or parent asking you “And how are you feeling about what I just asked you to do?”

I’m guessing no.

Because at that point your feelings don’t matter as much as your obedience to the task.

But you will hear that chatter in your head, won’t you?

  • I didn’t wake up feeling awesome and motivated today.
  • This is so hard!
  • What if this doesn’t work and I look stupid?
  • Or my personal nemesis, I’m just not feeling it today.

Obedience to the process ignores this emotional kind of feedback.

Obedience doesn’t always feel sexy, even though it totally is.

But it will give you the courage to keep moving toward your goal because you are doing something.

What would happen in your life if you just decided to do the work you’ve already decided to do?

No judgments.

No questions.

No hand wringing.

Just hard work every day with the nuts and bolts of this thing you want to change.

You see, all of this obedience ultimately frees you up. Look at you!

You put some stuff on the table! You worked with it and now you’re closer to where you want to go.

Obedience just showed you what you’re capable of.

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Ep 36: Make peace with the plateau

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A little encouragement as you go into the weekend. Sometimes life seems to level out and it’s hard to see how far you’ve come. You might be on a plateau right now but your curve is getting ready to move up!

Have a great weekend!

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Episode 36 Make peace with the plateau - Man on a long two lane road jumping in the air

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your Mental Health Moment.

“Why do you have to be world champion at everything?”

My husband asked me this question just a few years into our marriage. He noticed early on that I set the bar very high for myself in just about everything.

In those days, I latched on to something new like a little french bulldog with a bone.

I’ve never been an actual world champion at anything. Well, except maybe in the space between my two ears.

But I really like to try. My favorite place to be is at zero.

No skills, no history and everything to learn.

I love that steep learning curve.

But I’m not crazy about the plateau at the top of that curve.

There’s real work in the plateau.

And responsibility, too.

If you stay in something long enough, you’ll find the plateau.

  • New jobs plateau.
  • Relationships settle in.
  • Exciting new life adventures become regular routines.
  • Soft, fluffy, sweet-smelling puppies become dogs.

When you start something new, the gains are tremendous because you start with nothing. Any effort at all brings a change you can see. You’re moving up

There’s a lot of hope and excitement on the left side of that curve.

But you can’t escape the plateau. Without it there wouldn’t be a curve at all.

Who understands plateaus more than Olympic athletes?

We marvel at their dedication and commitment for the tiniest window of opportunity to achieve greatness.

What we see in their performance on the big day is the result of hard work and deliberate practice for an unbelievably long time.

What we don’t see is how these athletes have weathered those plateaus.

  • We don’t see how lowering a shoulder just a smidge changes the trajectory of a long jump. And how long it took to master that smidge.
  • Or how pushing through weeks of no real progress at all in a floor routine suddenly brings a breakthrough.

That stuff’s not Instagrammable.

The bigger story isn’t the 10,000 hours of deliberate practice.

It’s the 9,000 plus hours spent on the plateau.

The plateau is where character is formed.

It’s where you decide how far you go with this thing. And it’s where the gains are realized.

As you enter this weekend, give yourself props for each small gain you made this week.

Nothing is too small to plot on that curve.

Sure, you may look back and not be able to see the line trending up at all from here.

But it will if you keep going.

Have a great weekend! 😀

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Ep 30: Use Discipline to Find Inspiration

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How do you find inspiration on the days when you’re not feeling inspired? Many times we rely on external things to pump us up for our day.

But inspiration comes after the work. Disciplined action always precedes motivation.

Learn where to place your focus so you can inspire yourself.

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Some days are just uninspiring, aren’t they? If you’re working towards improving your life or meeting a new goal, then you are probably very focused on discipline, change and discovery.

But some days seem to contain exactly zero discipline, change and discovery. 😏

And that’s perfectly okay.

Not every day is supposed to look like a Forbes feature article.

We have access to millions of stories of achievement and motivation. There are some incredible people out there doing some amazing things.

Those stories are inspiring, no doubt.

But they’ve also conditioned us to believe that our own lives are somehow lacking if every day isn’t a grand adventure of some sort.

So we’re disappointed when we don’t feel like we conquered something at the end of the day.

But that’s not how a disciplined life works.

Discipline is about being a principled student (a disciple, if you will) of whatever it is you’re trying to become.

  • Do you want to be a world recognized chef?
    Then you must become a disciple of all of the time tested traditions of a world-class kitchen.
  • Do you want to develop a well-rounded yoga practice?
    Then you must submit yourself to explore multiple forms of yoga and learn from those with experience and wisdom.
  • Do you want to lead a more mindful and centered life?
    Then you must have the courage to acknowledge that there’s a better way than the frenetic, scattered life you’ve been living so far.

In order to master something, you have to find humility to submit yourself to the process.

Regardless of the outcome in every day.

This means still honoring the path you’re on even when you’re just not feeling it.

You become a disciple to the process.

What does it mean to be a disciple?

  • A disciple learns by applying what she’s gleaned from others wiser than her.
  • A disciple applies those principles no matter what the external circumstances may try to dictate.
  • A disciple looks past the raw emotions each day brings and chooses to focus on what she’s already decided for the future.
  • A disciple never loses her keen focus on the destination, even if the path to get there gets a bit crooked and rough.
  • A disciple passes on those same principles to others walking behind her to create more little awesome disciples.

Become a disciple of your own life.

Do the work that pushes back against you every day.

Learn to celebrate the process, not the progress.

Apply your focus and concentration to what’s present and right in front of you.

This is where you will find inspiration in your days.

For articles and videos about stress and mental health, visit my website at Lorimiller.me. You can catch Mental Health Moment on Amazon Alexa, Apple podcast, Google podcast and Spotify. Visit Lori Miller.me for info on how to subscribe.

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Give yourself a Mental Health Moment every day!

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Amazon Alexa skill - Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller

Sometimes you need some encouragement right at the top of the day so you can stay focused on what will keep you energized and productive. 🌝

I’m excited to debut my Alexa skill, Mental Health Moment with Lori Miller.

It’s a little shot in the arm to start your day.

Every day I’ll talk about small ways you can inject a bit of sanity in your day.

If you have an Amazon Echo you can enable Mental Health Moment in the Alexa store. You can also download the Alexa app on your phone or tablet and enable the skill there.

Check out all the details on my Amazon skill page.

Feel free to leave me a review. I’d love to know what you think! 🤔

Ep 3: Don’t stress exercise

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Sometimes we stress exercise because it feels like one more thing we have to do, and we have to do it well. Maybe we’re making it too hard.

How do you make exercise work for you in spite of all the craziness around you?

Don’t stress it. Just move!

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Ep 3: Don't stress exercise

Hi I’m Lori Miller and this is your mental health moment.

Unless you’ve been living under a heavy rock somewhere, you know exercise is one of the easiest and most cost-effective ways to boost your mental health.

Doing some kind of physical activity every day:

  • reduces stress,
  • lowers that anxiety that’s always with you
  • and boosts your resilience to some of the nonsense in your day.

But exercise can be the hardest thing to fit in to a busy day.

It’s like one more thing to put on your list, isn’t it?

So how do you make exercise work for you in spite of all the craziness around you?

Don’t stress exercise. Just move.

The object here isn’t to add stress by feeling like you have more to do.

Just make some simple changes today to weave physical activity into your schedule, and make sure you do something.

Here’s a couple of suggestions:

First, plan for some physical activity when you have know you won’t have other obligations tugging at you.

This may mean getting up an extra 15 minutes to take a short walk, yes, even in the snow.

Or maybe you can swap out some of your normal morning coffee time to go for that walk.

Personally, I’d rather get up a tiny bit earlier than take any of my precious coffee time.

But do what works for you.

Maybe it makes more sense for you to pull up a short video on YouTube while dinner’s in that new InstaPot you got for Christmas. You have to wait anyway.

Why not use that time to invest a few minutes in yourself?

Find those little pockets of time. They do add up.

Second, don’t make it a formal thing.

Everybody’s always doing a plan or following a program. Regular exercise is less about having a beach body and more about just moving already.

Don’t focus on the number of days a week or the intensity or all that stuff.

Focus on an activity.

Things like:

  • A neighborhood bike ride
  • Yard work, or shoveling snow
  • A quick walk around your office building at lunchtime
  • Dancing. Yes, dance while the InstaPot’s cooking that roast!

High five yourself for the activity.

Move on with the day.

Then just do that again tomorrow.

That’s it. No pressure.

Pick something you can do today and just do that.

Keep it simple. And get moving.

For articles and videos about stress and mental health, visit my website at Lorimiller.me.

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