One of the best ways to change your outlook on stress at work is to change how you look at Monday.
For whatever reason in our Gregorian calendar setup, we define Monday as the official start of a new week.
If the new work week started on Saturdays, we’d all hate Saturdays. Can you imagine hating Saturdays and feeling that dread on Friday night?
#DGIF (Dear God, It’s Friday) 🤣
Of course not. That would be weird.
We’ve conditioned ourselves to dread Monday, pure and simple.
Where’s the love for #TGIM?
Monday is the starting gate, the tone setter for the week. How you frame your attitude for this one day is the best indicator of how well the rest of your week goes.
If you master your Monday, you stand a chance to master the rest of the week.
Don’t get me wrong, you can always push the reset button if you have a crappy Monday. You just have to work a lot harder to get that Monday mojo back.
Starting your Mondays well is the key to the whole week.
How do you change your perspective on Monday?
Ask different questions about Monday
As a recap for all things mental health: your thoughts affect your feelings, which then affect the behaviors and actions you take.
Whatever you tell yourself about Monday will show up directly in how you live out this day.
This doesn’t mean you should become the Pollyanna who shouts “I love Mondays and I don’t care who knows it!” when you walk in the door. Be positive, sure, but don’t annoy people, if you can help it.
Think about your morning. What questions did you ask yourself about how this day might go?
What kind of mood will my boss be in?
How much longer until the end of the day?
How many impromptu meetings am I going to get roped into?
Why do we have staff meetings first thing on Monday? (my personal favorite)
How will I get through four more days of this?
When will Friday get here?
In order to change your perspective on Monday, you have to reframe your questions on Monday.
What can you ask yourself on this day that will focus your mind forward?
What will help you look for answers that will move you toward your goals instead of focusing on Mondays past? 🤔
How can I find my boss’ pain points this week and help take some pressure off?
What are the best things I can do today that will position me well for the rest of this week?
What opportunities do I have today to showcase my expertise to a captive audience?
Who on my team can I encourage today that may be struggling with their work?
When will Friday get here? (I’m not sure we can reframe this one. We just love Fridays! That’s okay!)
Try this flip flop exercise and see if it doesn’t empower you and give you a little hope for the rest of the week.
Look for things that will help you win today
🎩 Hat tip to a great group of ladies I was with last week who shared this strategy. While you’re enjoying your early morning coffee, list five things you can do today that will help you win.
Making healthy eating choices
Taking a walk at lunch
Sharing an encouraging message with a coworker
Checking in with your boss
Getting that weekly report in before noon.
It’s so easy to let the urgent tasks drive your day before you barely get started. By lunchtime, you’re flailing your arms trying to figure out just how you got off track.
Knowing these five things ahead of time will help you pivot back to what’s important. Taking care of what’s important helps you feel some autonomy over your work and positions you to win.
If you can win today, you can win the rest of the week.
Give yourself a mental health moment
Most of the time we literally race from place to place. That’s how we live now.
If you’re a driving commuter, you most likely drove in the parking lot on two wheels, barely dodged fellow coworkers walking in, lurched into a parking space, piled all your bags on your shoulders (you really need a cart) and raced into the building.
Whoa, slow down turbo. 😫
You most likely just defied death at 80 mph on a busy highway and maybe even took some calls already.
Give yourself a few minutes in the car to reset your focus before you go in.
Take some deep breaths
Enjoy putting your favorite lipstick on
Watch a funny YouTube video
Listen to that one song that fires you up (my current one is “Never Give Up,” by Sia from the terrific movie, “Lion”), or
Review your “Five Things to Win Today” from this morning.
You get to have a few minutes to shift gears and focus on your best performance.
Athletes and performers do this all the time.
You will never see Tom Brady rush out of his expensive SUV right before the game starts and hit the field with Cinnabon bits still in his teeth.
No doubt he has a specific mental process that helps him stay focused, and I would imagine he has a ton of little refocus moments on game day.
Maybe he puts on his lipstick in the car, too. 💄
If you feel rushed and frazzled, people notice this the minute you walk in the door.
It’s all around you.
A well-placed mental health moment is an easy way to be that person who always brings the calm into Monday morning. Master this one skill and you can absolutely confound your coworkers.
Besides, feeling rushed and frazzled doesn’t help you feel resilient for the challenges that may come your way on this fine Monday morning.
You’ll spend at least 480 minutes at work today. Take a measly five of those minutes to set yourself up for success.
It’s all about you
Want a quick way to reduce your stress at work? Stop viewing Monday as the enemy. Look for ways to make Monday your ally in the workweek.
Monday can be your Winston Churchill, the wise, direct and purposeful elder statesman that helps you soldier through this week with wit and purpose. 💪 (Why are there no Churchill emojis??)
You’ll notice all of these tips have nothing to do with anyone else but you. Yes, you can have a good Monday in spite of your circumstances at work.
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